Thursday 20-02-2025 - 10:43

University can be an incredible time of learning, self-discovery, and making lifelong connections—but it can also be overwhelming. Between deadlines, social pressures, and the challenge of living independently, it’s easy to be hard on yourself. That’s why practicing self-kindness is one of the most important skills you can develop.

What does being kind to yourself mean?

Being kind to yourself doesn’t mean ignoring responsibilities or avoiding challenges. It means treating yourself with the same care and understanding that you’d offer a friend. It’s about recognising your worth beyond academic achievements and learning to navigate setbacks with compassion rather than criticism.

Ways to practice self-kindness at uni

1. Speak to yourself like a friend

If a friend failed an assignment or was struggling with a tough day, you wouldn’t call them a failure—you’d reassure them. Try to apply that same kindness to yourself. When negative thoughts creep in, ask yourself: Would I say this to a friend? If not, reframe it into something supportive and constructive.

2. Priorities rest and relaxation

Pulling all-nighters and constantly pushing yourself isn’t a badge of honour—it’s a fast track to burnout. Rest is essential for focus, mood, and overall well-being. Whether it’s getting enough sleep, taking breaks, or finding activities that help you relax (like reading, gaming, or yoga), make sure to recharge regularly.

3. Set realistic goals

Ambition is great, but setting impossibly high standards can lead to stress and self-doubt. Break big tasks into smaller, manageable goals, and celebrate progress rather than perfection. Every small step forward counts.

4. Allow yourself to make mistakes

No one gets everything right all the time. Mistakes and failures are part of learning, and they don’t define you. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, focus on what you can learn from the experience.

5. Say no when you need to

University is full of opportunities, but you don’t have to do everything. It’s okay to turn down plans or step back from commitments if you’re feeling overwhelmed. Prioritising your well-being is not selfish—it’s necessary.

6. Nourish your body and mind

Eating well, staying active, and looking after your mental health all contribute to feeling good. This doesn’t mean forcing yourself to follow a strict regime, but rather finding balance—fueling your body with food that makes you feel good, moving in ways that you enjoy, and seeking support when you need it.

7. Reach out for support

You don’t have to do everything alone. Whether it’s talking to a friend, reaching out to university support services, or joining a student group, connection can be a powerful way to remind yourself that you’re not alone in what you’re feeling.

Final thoughts

Being kind to yourself at uni isn’t always easy, especially in a culture that often glorifies overworking. But learning to treat yourself with care and understanding will make your university experience far more enjoyable and sustainable.

So, take a deep breath, give yourself a break, and remember—you’re doing better than you think.

If you’re struggling, Huddersfield Students’ Union and university support services are here to help. You’re never alone.